Yesterday an article in a Swiss newspaper raised my attention:
the new form of relationships: the “non-relationships”. It described the way of how modern relationships actually work. Everything what was called in the past like: “yes, we are together now”, seems today like “yes, you’re ok”. A “non-relationship” is defined as a relationship which has a non-binding character. No hard feelings and long-term obligations please! In case that a non-binding relationship will fail it will protect the self-perception of the person who is breaking up, because he/she never really promised.
The author of the article forgot a second version of “non-relationships”- and this version is not new; it is existing since years: marriages on arrangement-basis.
Marriages, in which the love is gone and which are only led because of the kids and financials. A lot of couples are living together, growing up the kids together, spending holidays together. The typical family life..
They prefer to have eyes firmly closed instead of living “eyes wide shut”. They keep the intact relationship perception to the outside world.
Isn’t life too exciting to spend it in a “non-relationship”? I personally will never understand it. We consult a lot of clients who decide to leave this non-relationship, because they decide that they have only one life to live and want to become happy again. Don’t we all deserve a happiness-in-life?
I want to close my blog with a quote, which requires no additional comment:
“So many people prefer to live in drama because it is comfortable. It’s like someone staying in a bad marriage – it is actually easier to stay because they know what to expect every day, versus leaving and not knowing what to expect”. (Ellen De Generes)
Brigitte Kaps, CEO